Talking to Children About Tragedies

April 23, 2007

Images of the Virginia Tech Shootings May Cause Stress Among Young Viewers

Los Angeles - As images of the Virginia Tech shootings continue to flood TV screens, Web sites and newspapers, mental health experts at the University of Southern California (USC) say what children see may cause indirect effects of post-traumatic stress. Parents can help children understand and cope with what they are seeing by giving them a chance to discuss their reactions.

“Children may associate images they see on television with their daily activities such as going to school or watching their parents go to work,” says Jeff Sugar, M.D., visiting assistant professor of clinical psychiatry and behavioral sciences of the Keck School of Medicine of USC. “They might feel an increased sense of anxiety or fear, which are common after tragic events like this. If a child is expressing fear, it’s important for parents to reassure their child that they are as safe as they were before the shooting.”

Some parents may be unsure about how to bring up disturbing events. However, it is important to give children an opportunity to ask questions and to answer them accurately.

“Watching TV or reading the newspaper together gives both parent and child a chance to discuss the situation and address any concerns, including safety,” continues Sugar. “If possible, limit what a child watches to prevent unnecessary further exposure to the trauma.”

Do not make promises that these situations will never happen again recommends Sugar. Spending extra time with the child or calling from work during the middle of the day may give the child the extra reassurance he or she needs.

Parents should be aware that stress can manifest in children as a headache, tummy-ache, nightmares or trouble sleeping.

“Feeling anxious is normal,” says Sugar. “Most children will learn to cope with this indirect trauma over time. Continue with normal routines like school, after-school activities and play as children respond well to environments they are familiar with.”

If fears don’t seem to subside in a few weeks, consider bringing your child to see a trained mental health professional.